discerning: education

It's been a good year or so now (maybe longer, as I think I was still expecting our lass), but one morning the bambini and I had to make an early morning trip past the local elementary school.  The parking lot was full of parents lined up dropping their kids off for the school day.  Tears welled in my eyes as I drove past.  I could barely breathe.  It took me a more than a moment to collect myself and respond to my elder lad's inquiry "what's that, Mama?"  "That's the elementary school, babe.  It's time for school."  Maybe the pregnancy hormones had something to do with the uncharacteristic surge of emotions.  Yeah.  We'll go with that...

On the first day of preschool, I managed to hold it together fairly well in spite of great anxiety and a certain sense of loss as we bid our elder lad farewell in his classroom for the day.  It was a tough one.  We have all emerged stronger from the experience, though, and now he is thriving in his preschool environment.

As our elder lad approaches kindergarten, we are discerning God's will for school options.  We feel it is our duty to give him an education informed by our Catholic worldview, as it is that which guides every aspect of our lives, especially that which compels us to seek the will of God in everything and to be focused on fulfilling it.  The manner in which we accomplish the procurement of this education is still not entirely clear -- be it Catholic school, public school supplemented by parish-based faith formation, or home school with a Catholic curriculum.  In the end, my beloved and I are our bambini's primary teachers no matter what method of education we discern is the one in which they will thrive. 

I feel a lot of pressure to make the right decision for our children's education.  I know I'm not the first parent to feel this way.  We are trying to approach this decision faithfully, discerning God's will as we have for other major (and minor) decisions throughout our lives together. 

Whatever decision we come to, it will not be without much prayer and careful consideration of both the spiritual and academic aspects of the arrangement.  By God's grace, I trust we will make the right call.  Not that we can't change course down the line if we come to realize the situation isn't working out, but here's hoping we will remain open to the prompting of the Holy Spirit to recognize God's direction for the formation of not just the minds and souls of these children whose care he has entrusted to us, but their whole selves.

So maybe next year he'll be at that elementary school that brought on the drive-by water works.  Wherever he is, we hope to foster within him and his siblings a lifelong love of learning and a quest for the will of God for his life.

The Way Things Work

Curiosity has met its match here.  It might be intended for older audiences, but that hasn't stopped my lads and their dad from enjoying David Macaulay's The New Way Things Work and the videos that are based upon the original The Way Things Work.  Sensors, heat, pressure, friction, electricity, combustion, musical instruments, the color spectrum... we've been skipping around, reading about whatever looks interesting at that given moment.  The videos are well-produced, interesting, and brief (15 minutes or so) but thorough enough to adequately introduce the concepts behind these intriguing mysteries to our little sponges.  I do hope I don't find one or both of them taking the toaster apart after having read how it works in this tome, though I wouldn't put it past them.

books by Esther Averill

We have found a couple of new-to-us chapter books to enjoy together: Esther Averill's Jenny and the Cat Club, about a petite black cat named Jenny Linsky who wears a red scarf around her neck (usually), lives with a retired sea captain in New York City, and counts herself among a charming group of felines (who call themselves The Cat Club) that meets in the Captain's yard.  The Hotel Cat follows Jenny and friends after moving with the Captain to a hotel.

From planning the Annual Spring Picnic to outwitting the motley band of neighborhood dogs that vex the cats ceaselessly, Jenny and her friends are endearing and clever, even to those who are not cat aficionados.

One of Jenny's friends is Pickles the Fire Cat.  Our family first met Pickles a couple years ago when we received The Fire Cat, also by Esther Averill, for my elder lad's third birthday from one of my beloved's brothers.  Pickles sports big paws and seems destined for greatness, according to Mrs. Goodkind, who lives in a comfortable house next to the empty lot Pickles occupies.  She welcomes Pickles into her house, but he has too much a sense of adventure to be content indoors all the time.  Trouble is, he has difficulty channeling his energy into productive purposes and finds himself tormenting smaller cats.  Until, that is, Mrs. Goodkind hooks him up with a firefighter at the local fire station, who challenges Pickles to make something of himself...

Call them "vintage" if you will; these books by Esther Averill certainly do have a timeless quality about them.

Liturgy of the Hours -- for mamas

When I was working at the parish, I made it a priority to arrive before work in time to attend daily Mass and Morning Prayer from the Liturgy of the Hours (or Divine Office), the Church's prayer throughout the day.  I am remiss in keeping up with this habitual prayer, but today I ran across this piece by Catholic wife, mother, and author Danielle Bean.  It really speaks to me at this particular juncture.

I pray for the grace to be present at every moment of every day, to recognize the presence of Christ in my beloved and my children, and the fleeting time we have in this tender season together.

a long way yet

It's approaching two weeks since my mama friend contracted bacterial meningitis.  While her condition is stable, she is still hospitalized in ICU, paralyzed (though showing some hopeful signs of regaining feeling), and fighting the infection.   Please continue to keep her, her unborn baby, husband, two young children, family, friends, and caretakers in your prayers.  It looks to be a long road to recovery for her, but we fervently pray and maintain hope that she'll travel it with grace and gusto as she does everything else, and that soon she'll be restored to complete health.

reality check

At the end of each day, I try to ask the lads what the best part of theirs was.  Sometimes the younger lad responds with something that may have happened yesterday, last month, or six months ago (such is appropriate to his stage of development, I've read.  His concept of time is circular.), but often the elder lad's response is "playing with you."  Then he sometimes asks if we played together, so I recount our day together: "we had breakfast/lunch/snacks/dinner together; read stories; built that Lego McDonald's; baked cookies; drew pictures; went to the library..."

(Often this list might also include "did laundry, vacuumed, dusted, and/or cleaned the bathrooms" or some combination thereof.)

While there are many demands on my time each day, the most important, most meaningful use of it is interacting with my bambini -- even if we're not "playing together," per se.  I may not be able to spend all day every day building with Lincoln Logs, playing hide and seek, or tossing a ball back and forth (nor should I, really, as I'm not here to entertain them all day long but to help form them into the people they are called to be), but I know the investment of time I make doing these things with them is one that will yield immense intangible benefits. 

Children learn through play, so as much as I am able to channel my inner child and play with my bambini, the better off they will be.  It's what I have devoted this season of my life to doing.  It won't last forever.  I've come to hope for that response each night: "playing with you."  It's my reality check.

I pray the relationship we have been developing will provide the basis for a long-lasting bond from which these children whose care has been entrusted to us will operate from a standpoint of trust in us and in Christ, knowing that we are here for them and that they are valued beyond measure.  I know the dynamics will change over the years, but I pray we will always find ways to have fun together.

sweet tooth

My elder lad insists we are still in the Christmas season, which ended this year with the Baptism of the Lord on January 10th.  Or at least, I thought so.  I had requested Lori Walburg's picture book The Legend of the Candy Cane at the library probably during Advent, but had to wait a while (as in, after the Baptism of the Lord) to check it out.  Upon reading it, the aforementioned lad declared it "very nice."  He spotted the word "confections" on one page, asked what it meant, and -- once he had a definition -- said "I like confections."

Me too.  Especially dark chocolate ones.  But I digress.

At any rate, the book really is lovely.  One bleak winter, A stranger arrives in a little town and begins working on an abandoned shop.  No one dares ask him what he's up to, but the children hope he is going to open a candy store.  Finally, one brave little girl offers to help in an effort to get the scoop.  As it comes to light by her work alongside the man that the children's hopes for a candy store will soon be met, she discovers among the confections something she's never seen before: a candy cane.  She asks the man about it, and he examines aloud the characteristics of the candy -- its shape, its colors, and their symbolism: J for Jesus when it's upside-down and the shape of a shepherd's crook when upright, red for the blood of his scourging, and white for the purity Christ can and will bestow upon us when we clothe ourselves in him. 

It's a seasonless story of Christ's redemptive love.